We asked a number of youth to share: 1) what your relationship with your parent is like, 2) a mentoring relationship you have, 3) your daily schedule, and 4) what your goals are (what you are pursuing in life) and who you are learning from in regards to those goals.
Then Dave shared these words:
Today’s youth mindset might be influenced by factors like: having access to any info they could possibly want; lack of authentic conversation with adults; resulting in a lack of respect for people more knowledgeable or more wise than them.
This is a problem. Here’s why… Whether you know it or not, you are influenced by, wait for it, people. A good example of this: Parents. Whether you are proud of it, ashamed of it, or oblivious to it, you are just like your parents. You look like them, act like them, have the same mannerisms as them, pronounce words the same way, even your facial expressions are just like theirs. You might not see it, and maybe even people tell you you’re nothing like your parents, but you are.
2 reasons: 1) A little something called DNA. Inherit dominant traits, or recessive traits, which determines how much you might look like them or not. And 2) You live with them. This is why adopted kids become just like their parents too. Why do people talk different in different parts of the world? Because that’s how everybody talks there. I’m from Chicago and I still have nasally “a’s.” I’m not weird, I’m just from Chicago.
Which brings us back to, whether you know it or not, you are influenced by people. You become like the people you hang around the most.
Hang out with the wrong crowd and you’ll start doing the wrong things, hang out with good people, and you’ll do good things. If someone is constantly telling you that you are no good, what do you start to believe?
So what happens when we have a generation of youth who think they know everything and don’t really listen to adults in their life?
Maybe you don’t see the big deal. Maybe you really think you do know it all. Why should I listen to older people?
Mark Twain, “When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.”
We all could probably come up with some answers to the following questions:
What is something you learned the hard way that maybe could’ve been avoided had you listened to someone who had already gone through it?
What are some things you know now that you wish you knew when you were younger? (ie as a High schooler what would you tell your Jr high self?)
Don’t these all point to the fact that we should be listening to those older than us?
What we can do about this & how:
1. You need to be able to admit that you need help and that you don’t know everything (this is REALLY hard)
2. You are really busy and the world is telling you what to be busy with, BUT you need to make time for mentoring relationships